It is difficult for any of us to feel OK when the person we love is not. When we are the type of person who usually just handles things, fixes things, it can be very unsettling to realize that there are times when we just cannot do that.

Here are a few of those situations, when we love someone who is:

Watching someone you love who is experiencing any of these issues can be devastating. You know you have tried so many things to help, and yet, ultimately, there is often little you can do. Sometimes it is because of the situation itself, and sometimes it is because the person you love would need to want things to change as much as you do.

One person you can help, however, is yourself. This may mean learning to set boundaries with the person you love, even though it may be difficult. You may not believe it, but the truth is that the stronger and healthier you are, the better it is for both you and your loved one. Working with a counselor and finding a support group are both ways you can reach that goal. These kinds of situations can be simply too overwhelming for anyone to try going it alone.




"When you live in an alcoholic family, you tiptoe, you don't want to step on any mines."


"Laws protect the right (of the mentally ill) to remain untreated. . . . She became increasingly delusional and paranoid . . . . For now we pray, and we wait. For my sister to realize she needs help, on her own, or for things to get worse. Again."